Social Friendships an Illusion?

In any conversation about the use of social networking sites, someone inevitably questions whether these technologies actually separate people from the real world, and only provide them with the illusion of connection. According to a recent study by the Pew Internet and American Life Project, that’s not actually the case.

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social friendsThe study asked 2,255 Americans about their social networking habits. The answers challenge beliefs held by some. Facebook users actually have more close relationships than non-users, and are more trusting, more politically engaged, and get more social support than other Internet users.

According to Pew, of the 79% of American adults using the Internet, nearly half (47%) use at least one social networking website. Ninety-two percent of these social networking users are on Facebook, 29% on MySpace, 18% are on LinkedIn, and 13% use Twitter.

Facebook and Twitter have the most engaged participants, with 52% and 33% of users logging on daily, respectively, compared with 7% who visit MySpace daily and 6% who do the same on LinkedIn.

On Facebook in particular, participation, as opposed to passive consumption, appears to be a common trend. Fifteen percent of users update their status on an average day, 22% comment on another’s post or status, 20% comment on others’ photos, 26% “like” another user’s content and 10% send a private message to a friend.

This daily use and engagement leads to generally positive feelings among Facebook users, specifically, in how they perceive their relationships with others and the world around them. Facebook users who use the site multiple times per day are 43% more likely than other Internet users to be trusting of others—that is, they feel that most people can be trusted.

Regular Facebook users are also, on average, 9% more close to their friends than other Internet users. And they score higher when it comes to social support than other online users. Pew says they are 5 points higher in total support, 5 points higher in emotional support and 5 points higher in companionship than Internet users with similar demographics.

The study also showed a general increase in the use of social networking services to stay in touch with close friends. In 2008, only 29% of users said they had friended all of their core “confidants.” Today, that number is 40%.

Users tend to revive their “dormant” relationships (high school friend requests, anyone?), and these connections can become important sources of information, even though they’re not active relationships.

Finally, Facebook users are more engaged with politics, no doubt thanks to the numerous political conversations that occur online via status updates and political cause pages.

This study shows, says Pew, that there is little validity to claims that people who use social networking sites have smaller social networks, less closeness with others, or are exposed to less diversity. In other words, your Facebook friends are real friends because Facebook allows you to mirror your offline connections via the Internet; it does not isolate you from them. It may even enable you to have more close ties, if you are a frequent Facebook user.

Franklin, Tenn Flooding & The Social Web

You may have heard on the news that a massive storm system parked over Middle Tennessee during this last weekend. This storm dropped 10” to 16” of rain over the area in a 36-hour period. A neighbor who lives one block down the street has lived in that same house for 40 years and said he has never seen anything like this.

I first heard about the storm and the torrential rains from neighborhood friends (called the Franklin Campus) on Twitter. I flew to BWI early Friday morning to drive to Mechanicsburg, PA to convince my Mom that she needed to agree to go into Assisted Living. I spent Friday afternoon with her and then drove down to Springfield, VA to meet Karen so I could help her mom.

Following the tweets all day Saturday, I knew things back home were bad and were going to get worse. I drove back to BWI early Sunday morning to fly back to Nashville. When I landed I didn’t know if I was going to be able to get home. I tweeted when I landed, asking what roads were open and the best route to take to get to downtown Franklin. I received several eyewitness suggestions and did make it home with hardly any trouble.

This video will give you an idea of the amount of flooding in several areas around Downtown Franklin. None of these locations are more than a few blocks from my house. Pinkerton Park is one block from my office where I often walk when I need a break from my desk.

Franklin TN Flood 05-02-10 May 2010 from Jonathan Melton on Vimeo.

Fortunately, we live up a small hill so the flood waters from the Harpeth River never got more than a block away. I did find 8” of water in my basement and a small roof leak upstairs. Very minor compared to many friends.

I knew I was going to need a pump to get the water out of my basement. I checked a couple of stores on my drive home Sunday and they were sold out. Last night I tweeted a request for anyone who had a pump or knew someone who did that I could borrow. Within minutes a friend who lives outside downtown said they had two. I drove to his office early this morning to pick it up. The water is now pumped out and the dehumidifier is running.

I am asked often “What’s the big deal about the social web?”

Events like this illustrate the power of being connected. Here are three reasons why the social web is a very big deal to me:

  1. It allows me to stay connected to my family, friends, and business associates in a way that is completely different than what I have experienced in the past. The social web makes staying connected easy to do, no matter where you are physically located.
  2. It helps build community. Unlike any neighborhood I have lived in the last 25 years, I have neighbors who will pitch in to help when the need is there. I live in a real, live community of people.
  3. It makes partying easier. OK, so our neighborhood likes to party. Neighbors were planning to throw a birthday party for their daughter Sunday night. But, no one could get there because the roads were closed. A couple of tweets and a couple of phone calls and the Franklin Campus gathered to help celebrate. We found out there were five friends who all had recent birthdays. Here is the iPhone video. (Randy @RandyElrod, Robert @TheRobertD, Megan @MegHMiller, Chris @ChrisJackson81, and me @SteveTN). This is just another way to enjoy and help each other.

How can you use the Social Web to build your own community and neighborhood?

Agency Internet Boot Camp

You know you need to move your agency online – not just a website – but an online business.

But you are overwhelmed. You don’t know what to do or how to do it.

Now there is a way for you to jump start your online presence. Duke Williams and I have created the Agency Internet Boot Camp. This is the most requested class I have ever worked with…

Hands-on Learning with Two of the Leaders in Agency Automation

Duke Williams and myself are teaching a day and a half class just outside of Nashville in Franklin, TN (my hometown) on Monday, February 8th and Tuesday, February 9th. The class will start at noon so you don’t have to come in a day early. We are ending at 4:00 PM on Tuesday so you don’t have to stay a day late.

The Focus of this Agency Internet Boot Camp:

  1. Learn how Google and other search engines find you
  2. Learn how to understand your online competition and exactly how to move above them in search results
  3. List your agency in Google Local Business
  4. Track your online reputation and your competition with Google Reader and Alerts
  5. Create your own blog.
  6. Learn to add pictures to a blog and add video to a blog.
  7. Learn about Google Adwords and Adsense. Find out how and if you should use them for your agency.
  8. Learn how to comment on other blogs to build your web presence and your business.
  9. Create a Facebook profile.
  10. Learn how to use Facebook advertising to attract prospects to your agency.
  11. Create a Twitter account.
  12. Learn exactly how to use Twitter to build your business.
  13. Create a YouTube account.
  14. Create and upload your first YouTube video.
  15. Embed that video in your blog.
  16. Learn exactly what functions need to be on your agency web site – what real customers want.
  17. Learn how to create an online and offline business sales and marketing plan for your agency.
  18. Learn how to measure and adjust to be sure you are reaching your goals.

Find out the details here…
http://agencybootcamp.blogspot.com/2010/01/insurance-agency-internet-boot-camp.html

Class size is limited to 20 so we can spend time individually working with each person that attends.

What Others Have Said

Attending the boot camp made me realize how many useful programs are out there on the web…..for free!

Jose L Miraya, CIC, LUTCF
Advantage Insurance Agency


I was unable to attend the first boot camp but I can tell from reading the blogs that everyone who attended is light-years ahead of most agency principals in their understanding of how to integrate Internet Marketing into their agency operation.

I plan to attend the second Agency Boot Camp in Franklin, Tennessee and highly recommend it to everyone in the insurance industry! I hope to see y’all there.
Eddie K. Emmett, Editor / Publisher
FYI Express, AIANC’s STREET WISE


If your are not able to attend this Boot Camp but you would be interested in something near you, please let me know by sending me an email to Steve@SteveAnderson.com and let me know your are interested.

I’m Helping Randy Get His Dream Job

I have played a very small part in an interesting marketing experiment that might be a good lesson for how agencies could leverage some of these new marketing tools.

A little background — I ran into my neighbor and friend, Randy Elrod, and his wife, Chris, at a local Mexican restaurant last week. They asked us (my daughter Stephanie) to join them and during the conversation I found out they were strategizing on how Randy could win a contest to land his dream job.

Murphy-Goode is a family-owned winery located within Sonoma Country’s Alexander Valley. They decided they wanted to leverage Web 2.0 tools to promote their wines to a wider audience. They wanted someone who really knows blogs, Facebook, Twitter, and YouTube to get the word out about their wines. Randy is that person. He has taught me a lot about using social media.

To find just the right person, Murphy-Goode created a contest. They have asked each applicant to create a 60-second video and upload it to the contest site. They are then asking each applicant to demonstrate their social media influence by having their friends and followers vote for their video. Getting the most votes doesn’t guarantee a job, but it does help get an interview — the next step in the process. They will pick 10 people to interview and from them select the final candidate. The winner will live at the winery (at no cost) for six months and be paid $10,000 per month. The title of the position is: “Murphy-Goode Wine Country Lifestyle Correspondent.”

We talked for a while and brainstormed on what his 60-second video should look like. They invited me to their house the next night to participate in a tasting of all of Murphy-Goode’s wines. Randy wanted to make sure he liked the wines! So we tasted eight bottles ranging from white to red. I was glad I could walk home!

My small part is during the tasting they shot some video for background and I am in the final video he submitted to Murphy-Goode. Well, at least the back of me is in the video.

I want to help Randy, and you can help as well. Why would you do this? Because it is an opportunity for you to experience firsthand how you might be able to use social web tools in your agency.

Here is your part. Please take 70 seconds to complete these four simple steps:

  1. Watch Randy’s very cool video on the Murphy-Goode website.
  2. Enter your email address to vote for Randy.
  3. Wait for the verification email and click on the link inside the message body. Note: Your vote will not count until you do this!
  4. Tweet this post or mention it on your Facebook page, or anywhere else you might have some connections.

That’s it. Pretty neat little experiment, huh? Not only is Murphy-Goode getting hundreds of thousands of dollars in free publicity, they are using the tools they want to develop to find just the right person for the job.